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Unwanted Pregnancies and Single Mothers

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The sexual revolution from the 1950s and 1970s has changed social norms concerning sex. Now, it is socially seen as the woman’s fault if she gets pregnant due to the sheer availability of the contraceptive pill and its many forms available to women.

In previous generations, before the 1960s, it was the man’s responsibility to get a woman pregnant to get married and provide a hearth and home to his wife and children. However, social norms, either rightly or wrongly, have been destroyed.

Women, particularly young women, are not educated on how the contraceptive pill works, aware of its side effects and how effective it truly is at preventing pregnancy.

If you use it ideally, the pill is 99% effective. But people aren’t perfect, and it’s easy to forget or miss pills, so in reality, the pill is about 93% effective. That means about 7 out of 100 pill users get pregnant each year.

It’s also important to be aware that for the pill to be effective, it’s got to be taken every single day at the same time, and it can take one month to be effective.

Furthermore, if a woman increases size, this can be in terms of muscle or body fat; the dosage may not be effective. The pill makes the female mind believe that she is pregnant, which can cause an increase in breast size and anxiety due to the mind believing it is pregnant.

Also, the body believing it is pregnant decreases the natural female sex drive and can cause symptoms of depression. Also, the pill, in extreme cases, can affect a young woman’s natural development.

This can nudge a woman’s sexual preferences to either being less or more attracted to their male partners; this is a slight nudge, though, at the extreme ends, it can cause women to be asexual and have no sex drive.

woman’s sex drive is also partly driven by the mixture of hormones, such as testosterone, within their body; if a woman has low testosterone, which is not normal for the female body, that can decrease her sex drive.

In women, testosterone is produced in various locations. One-quarter of the hormone is produced in the ovary, a quarter in the adrenal gland, and one-half in the peripheral tissues from the different precursors produced in the ovaries and adrenal gland.

Unwanted Pregnancies and Single Mothers

The Change of Social Norms

The social impact of the pill is the removal of responsibilities from fathers to take care of the unwanted children from the woman they slept with due to the pill removing social constraints surrounding fatherhood.

Also, the contraceptive pill contributed to the increase of unwanted children because women and men are sleeping with people not with whom they want to start a family but sex just for enjoyment.

There is a significant difference between the man or woman you sleep with and another one that you may marry, and I have found that this is what the sexual revolution did: it removes responsibility and social constraints from sexuality.

Added to this is the sexual mismatch between men and women, with a man having 16 to 20 times more testosterone than the average female, meaning that men, on average, are much more interested in casual sex and short-term relationships.

The average woman, in contrast, has a more interesting commitment to building a lasting relationship.

Also, with the removal of conservative social norms that help to govern and regulate male and female sexuality, we have seen a free-for-all-all where people can pursue their more natural inclinations, which is harmful to children in the long run.

In essence, the words of Thomas Sowell, ‘Much of the social history of the Western world, over the past three decades, has been a history of replacing what worked with what sounded good.’

Unwanted pregnancies and single mothers have been on the rise due to the destruction of responsibilities such as personal responsibility, community responsibility and responsibility of fathers, mothers, and the responsibility of the culture to support the institution of the family.

Family is critical because it supports all when we are having hard times, and we all need a strong support network provided through the institution of family.

Friendships can be a substitute, but in the end, once you’re in your 80s and cannot wipe your ass is doubtful friends will be there to support you in your hour of need.

Family provides a secure network for young children and older people in the most vulnerable states in this world. We started shitting and pissing ourselves, and we ended up doing the same.

This is why the author and feminist Louise Perry is an advocate for the support of family structures and that modern society has artificially extended the time we are independent and that we spend most of our lives either depending on other people for health and safety are looking after the elderly will then depend on others for their care.

Society has broken the generational contract of mutual protection and security that the institution of family provides.

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Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

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The Sexual Revolution coincided with the Technological Revolution in the 1970s; the period known as the Sexual Revolution was from the 1950s until the 1970s, the reason why the Technical Revolution or the Silicone Revolution is so important and interconnected at the same time.

These revolutions transformed how we work and the kind of work that people do in Western and post-industrial societies, and they fundamentally changed sexual relations between men and women.

A massive plus of the sexual revolution is that it freed men and women from the burden of having sex, which historically led to the production of the child, which meant for the first time in human history, people women had more options when it came to making mate selection.

From these revolutions, there have been winners and losers.

According to the Economist and African-American or American Thomas Sowell, any policy has negative and positive outcomes. Policymakers and society get to choose to live with and accept that there are trade-offs.

Still, we get to decide whether or not the trade-offs were ultimately more beneficial for society.

The contraceptive pill it sells was first invented in May 1950 and was made available in the United States when The Food and Drug Administration approved the first oral contraceptive in 1960.

Within two years of its initial distribution, 1.2 million American women were using the birth control pill, or the “pill,” as it is popularly known.

The United Kingdom was a bit later made available in the UK on the NHS in 1961 for married women only — until 1967 — and is now taken by 3.5 million women in Britain between the ages of 16 and 49.

For people reading this article, I intend to outline the losers and winners of the Sexual Revolution, and ultimately, I’m not trying to convince anybody reading this that the Sexual Revolution and the Technological Revolution that went along with the Sexual Revolution were ultimately positive or negative for men and women.

What I will do is give you, the reader, the information and let you make up your mind.

My take on this topic is its nuance and that, finally, there are winners and losers from the outcomes of the sexual revolution.

For people reading this from different generations they being the Silent Generation born between 1928 and 1945 and the Boomer Generation born between 1946 and 1964 that lived through and were born after World War II, they have very different interpretations, and I’ll be interested in hearing your viewpoints.

As for myself, the writer, I was born in 1997 and grew up primarily with the outcomes of the Sexual Revolution, so from my point of view, I’ve never known a world that is different for women who did not have access to the workplace or the contraceptive pill.

I was also born in a Western liberal society and educated in a liberal Western University surrounded by other liberated people’s different cultural backgrounds, genders, and sexual orientations.

This means I was born and raised in the impact of the post-World War Two world order and the Sexual and Silicone Revolution, so it is much easier for me to point out the negative, having not known a world any different than the one of the last 40 years.

Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

Agricultural to Industrial Economy

Humanity has experienced a massive significant change in how we live our lives since the invention of agriculture 12,000 years ago.

Only a few centuries ago, with the beginning of the Industrial Revolution, which started in 1769 in the islands of Great Britain, humanity experienced another significant change.

What industrialisation meant was that humanity now started creating wealth and other goods and services previously; the economy functioned with a rent space system where there were landlords, and they would receive profits from their tenants and farmers.

This is a primitive economy with limited merchant and middle classes, predominantly in cities and operating trading links.

One of the fantastic outcomes of the Industrial Revolution was that it provided new opportunities, and typically, around 80% of people primarily survived by being farmers in the agricultural economy.

Industrialisation freed people’s farming and made it so people could survive and develop new skills without the need to be farm labourers.

From 1800, 80% of people worked on farms.

Now, only around 2.9% of the population works in the agricultural sector in the United Kingdom, and these figures vary depending on the nation’s economy and sophistication.

As people in the late 18th and 19th centuries moved from the agricultural economy into industrialised manual labour professions in cities, families became much smaller. Traditionally, a family will consist of a pan-generational household with grandparents, parents and their children’s children.

Furthermore, families will be connected through the husbands and wives of the brothers and sisters living together in a communal space with different cousins and other relatives that would share in the burden and support one another in the endeavour of child raising.

Also, women tended to work in traditional industries, such as spinning wheels and turning wool into cloth; with those traditional home jobs being taken over by industrial machines, it made the women working at home redundant in the 19th century.

This incentivised more men and women to move to cities to secure work and live in smaller apartment buildings, which incentivised people to have fewer children, and children moved from being a valuable resource to an expensive luxury.

In manual labour and agricultural economies, more people are a benefit because they are a cheap source of work. As professions become more highly specialised, it takes longer and longer to have a trained workforce.

That is why when nations industrialise, their birth rates start to plummet; this is why India’s birth rate is hovering just around replacement levels of 2.1 and why China’s birth rate is plummeted since industrialisation and urbanisation in China’s coastal regions.

Having a family without the support of other relatives is much harder, and people not surrounded by other young couples are not holding the baby the very first time into their 30s and disincentivising having babies.

The pros and cons of the Industrial Revolution are that it freed people from living according to the seasons and facing the risk of famine. Still, the negative outcome is that it destroyed the family and the disincentivised connections of different generations of families and made the family unit smaller and smaller. Were now people lucky if they have two parents and a golden retriever as a family unit.

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The Wealth of Nations

The Industrial Revolution brought fantastic opportunities for developing specialisation, best described in the philosopher and economist Adam Smith’s book The Wealth of Nations, first published in 1776.

In Mr Smith’s book, he argued for specialisation that will lead to cheaper goods and services that will enable people to have more items and better living standards, which will also lead to technological improvements.

The hyper-specialisation made possible by the Industrial Revolution did more to liberate women from the household than feminism ever has because it freed women from domestic chores and responsibilities.

It is highly naïve and disrespectful to believe that women in nothing throughout human history provided meals and clothes as well as working in agriculture to keep their homes fed and the household running.

In the past, running a household was a full-time job just as valuable as a man working in a factory because it did not generate wealth; it was perceived as lesser.

It is economic activity that doesn’t go to the national GDP that is disrespected by contemporary societies, the work of a wife or homemaker.

The technologies of the 19th and 20th centuries have liberated women from the household and provided them with great opportunities for education and advancement in different career paths, starting with the invention of the lightbulb by Thomas Edison in 1879.

The lightbulb has liberated women because it enabled women to read and write during darker hours; when the children are asleep and the husband has been fed, she can now devote time to educational pursuits and not be limited by the rising and the setting of the sun.

James King, in 1851, created the first washing machine to use a drum. Hamilton Smith 1858 patented a rotary version, and in 1868, Thomas Bradford, a British inventor, created a commercially successful machine that resembles the modern device.

This is another technology that liberated women from household chores of washing, which gave them more time to have other pursuits and is a massive reason why women could enter the workforce because more and more domestic chores were now being taken over by new specialised machines made possible due to the Industrial Revolution which further liberated women from the household.

Women were also liberated from having to kill and cook food from scratch with the invention of the freezer was invented by James Harrison in 1857. It was used to store food, meat, and vegetables.

In 1859, engineers started using ammonia to freeze food. Until then, vapour was used to cool and eventually freeze the food.

Now, women will no longer have to take a chicken and turn it into a chicken nugget. Now, the chicken was already killed, and it could be cooked from frozen again three more times for women to join the workforce or pursue other avenues of meaning.

On a final note, what made it possible for women to function in the workplace to work in factories was the invention of the tampon [jr1] and public toilets, which meant that women could dispose of any blood during their periods as well as the female-only spaces for their safety and security.

The importance of female-only areas cannot be overlooked due to women facing the possibility of rape, murder as well as protecting their dignity when engaged in functions involving toilets and the disposal of their sanitary products.

George Jennings was an English sanitary engineer and plumber who invented the first public flush toilets.

(In 1851, the first public flushing toilet block opened in London and, due to its popularity, spread around the country. The cost of using these public toilets was 1 penny, hence the famous phrase ‘to spend a penny’.)

(In 1931, Earl Haas, a physician in Colorado, developed a cardboard applicator tampon meant to absorb menstrual blood. He made the tampon inside the applicator from a tightly bound strip of dense cotton attached to a string for easy removal.)

What has been concisely demonstrated was how industrialisation and the specialisation created through the process of industrialisation enabled the liberation of women from domestic chores and made it possible for women to enter the workplace.

For those reasons, I would have to say industrialisation was a positive because it gave women the choice of whether to work or to stay at home as a homemaker.

Unfortunately, women don’t have the options today due to the cost of living; staying at home with the children is not an option for most wives, women or others unless the husband/wife or Person is earning £52,000 in the United Kingdom or $100,000 in the United States of America due to the sheer cost of living.

Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

Unwanted Pregnancies and Single Mothers

The sexual revolution from the 1950s and 1970s has changed social norms concerning sex. Now, it is socially seen as the woman’s fault if she gets pregnant due to the sheer availability of the contraceptive pill and its many forms available to women.

In previous generations, before the 1960s, it was the man’s responsibility to get a woman pregnant to get married and provide a hearth and home to his wife and children. However, social norms, either rightly or wrongly, have been destroyed.

Women, particularly young women, are not educated on how the contraceptive pill actually works, aware of its side effects and how effective it truly is at preventing pregnancy.

If you use it ideally, the pill is 99% effective. But people aren’t perfect, and it’s easy to forget or miss pills, so in reality, the pill is about 93% effective. That means about 7 out of 100 pill users get pregnant each year.

It’s also important to be aware that for the pill to be effective, it’s got to be taken every single day at the same time, and it can take one month to be effective.

Furthermore, if a woman increases size, this can be in terms of muscle or body fat; the dosage may not be effective. The pill makes the female mind believe that she is pregnant, which can cause an increase in breast size and anxiety due to the mind believing it is pregnant.

Also, the body believing it is pregnant decreases the natural female sex drive and can cause symptoms of depression. Also, the pill, in extreme cases, can affect a young woman’s natural development.

The social impact of the pill is the removal of responsibilities from fathers to take care of the unwanted children from the woman they slept with due to the pill removing social constraints surrounding fatherhood.

Also, the contraceptive pill contributed to the increase of unwanted children because women and men are sleeping with people not with whom they want to start a family but sex just for enjoyment.

There is a significant difference between the man or woman you sleep with and another one that you may marry, and I have found that this is what the sexual revolution did: it removes responsibility and social constraints from sexuality.

Added to this is the sexual mismatch between men and women, with a man having 16 to 20 times more testosterone than the average female, meaning that men, on average, are much more interested in casual sex and short-term relationships.

The average woman, in contrast, has a more interesting commitment to building a lasting relationship.

Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

Globalisation and the Silicon Age

International trade and globalisation, as we understand it today, was born out of the aftermath of World War II, 1939 to 1945.

What created globalisation and the specialisation which enabled the technological marvels such as the iPhone invented in 2007 and man landing on the moon in 1969 was possible thanks to American security.

The USA protects the world’s global shipping lanes, ensuring that all nations have the capabilities to buy and sell goods across the globe.

This became the ultimate example of Adam Smith’s utopian version of specialisation, which you wrote about in his book The Wealth of Nations, published in 1776.

What this meant was that if a nation didn’t have access to coal and steel, it would not be able to industrialise; what globalisation did was turn the world into a giant marketplace where individual nations could specialise in certain goods and services.

For Germany and China, it was manufactured goods, and for the United Kingdom, for example, it specialised in financial services due to Britain being the nation that created global finance.

Britain was the world’s most potent superpower and the crated precursor to what we call globalisation during the Pax Britannicus from 1815 to 1914.

The reason why all this is related to the Sexual Revolution is that jobs became so specialised and moved away from manual labour, enabling women to be economically productive by working office jobs and laptop jobs that require brainpower over brawn power.

This was good for women as it freed them from domestic work, and it meant that women no longer had to rely on a man to be a provider for them.

Now, for the first time, women can earn their own money and make independent life choices.

The feminist and author Betty Friedan, who wrote and published the book The Feminine Mystique 50 years ago in 1963, would not have been able to pursue a writing career without the support and cooperation of her husband.

Most women during her time, having been educated in the late 1930s and early 1940s, would have been able to become writers and pursue independent career paths without the support of their spouses.

Women in today’s society have the encouragement and the necessary social norms to put off work and motherhood to pursue careers; however, this only truly applies to a particular class of woman who is part of the laptop classes and higher earners.

I cannot say to most women that having a job as a cleaner working in customer service will not be my idea of an ideal career path, but that’s up to you to decide.

Feminists were fighting not for women to be cleaners or to work in customer service. They were fighting for the right for women to go into higher education and have high-paying jobs.

This is the massive divide in feminism between working-class feminists and the upper middle- and higher-class feminists, but having different priorities and fighting for different outcomes for a working-class woman having the support of a loving husband and family makes much more sense here.

In contrast, a young woman working in the city doing a financial job will need independence from her family and the responsibilities that it entails to pursue her career ambitions.

There is a massive divide between what is a career and what is a job. In a career, fulfilment can be found in a job; you are just a servant to fulfil another person’s dreams and ambitions.

This is a big case of luxury elites; this is where an elite group of people put forward economic policies and social policies that suit their upper-class interests and negatively affect people in the working classes.

If you are a man or a woman living in an inner city, I invite you to go to a dating app as a man using the dating app.

You will find a massive growth of working-class women from 18 to 25 who are single mothers, but if you narrow the field down to women at university, then you will find most of them don’t have children but are from a different socioeconomic group.

In this little bit of information, you can see who is winning and who is suffering due to the impact of the sexual revolution and literal beliefs that can harm some people.

Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

Men Left Behind

The Sexual Revolution and the Silicon Revolution have left men behind due to the old manufacturing jobs in middle America and old coal mining communities in the United Kingdom moving to foreign nations thanks to the hyper-specialisation and being cheaper to get the goods abroad.

This is a massive success story that people don’t talk about because it took over half a billion people in China out of extreme poverty, and the levels of absolute poverty have declined globally since the end of the Second World War.

However, this came at a price for the manufacturing and blue-collar jobs that men typically dominated.

Still, with those jobs having gone abroad, it left those kinds of men without work or purpose, which meant they were left behind by society.

It is not the duty of women to raise men merely that society has left these men behind and has not made a place for people who are not suited for office jobs that require a lot of mental work.

I remember speaking to a man working at Morrisons, who told me how he spent £1000 on new computer software for his PC. I was taken aback by how much passion and drive, as well as his finances, goes into gaming.

This event still makes me think that young men don’t have the motivation to succeed or to build a prosperous future, not just for themselves but for those around them, because they have given up due to society telling them they are not good enough.

For women, it may be frightening how much male motivation is driven by the desire for sexual intercourse and the desire to have female affection.

With the growing use of pornography, the male drive is not being used appropriately and healthily because men are not having sex and are instead using pornography to fill natural needs rather than becoming worthy of female attention. It’s not good for society as a whole.

There are growing numbers of young men becoming addicted to pornography or suffering the effects of erectile dysfunction.

This is because the male sex drive is triggered through the use of images.

If a man sees too many sexual images when he finally interacts with a woman, he will not be able to maintain an erection.

There are two reasons for this.

One is the sheer volume of pornographic images and staged sexual scenes that can’t live up to the real thing, and it makes the man become desensitised to a woman’s natural floors and beauty in real life.

The second reason is that to have self-pleasure for a man, he doesn’t need to have a full erection, and his body becomes used to ejaculating without being hard.

Also, this is very bad for women because when she has sex with a man, he will expect her to act like a porn star due to growing up and seeing images on pornography websites that do not reflect reality.

What needs to be made clear is that those kinds of websites and pornography are studio productions.

What people are seeing is not actual sex but camera angles; people in those productions move the way they do so they can get the best camera angles.

It’s not a good idea to spit or choke a woman; that’s the kind of image a man sees and learns online. Also, for women, because it’s pornography doesn’t make it right, nor is it normal for what you are both seeing is a fantasy and a production it’s not real.

Winners and Losers of the Sexual Revolution

Modern Dating

The Sexual Revolution has destroyed dating. There is no such thing as courtship, which has led to the death of romance due to people learning everything about one another online through dating and social media for you even meet the other person.

So, by the time you get to the dating stage, there is not really anything to communicate about having texted each other over weeks.

Also, sex is no longer sacred due to people’s having multiple sexual partners. A 2017 survey of 2,180 people from the U.S. and Europe from U.K. health service Superdrug Online Doctor found women had a lifetime average of 7 sexual partners. Men had an average of 8 sexual partners.

Sex is no longer sacred, and people are living together before getting married. This reduces the importance of the institution of marriage.

What we are saying to our boyfriend and girlfriend is that before we get together, I’m going to try you out and see if you out I want. This can lead to resentment because what you are communicating is that I’m not ready to commit to our relationship, and I’m keeping my options open.

Modern dating is also harmful because it turns people into a commodity. Dating apps like going on Amazon shopping basket and saying tonight I will have Kelly or I will have Kevin dehumanise men and women on those dating apps and turn them into products.

It’s got to be stated that it provides the illusion of choice and that we have infinite selections when it comes to sexual and relationship partners; this can lead to some women feeling like they are a piece of meat, feeling pressured to have sex with strangers until they find a man willing to stick around.

With the destruction of courtship and no longer being any established dating norms, there are no guidelines for men and women when they are dating, when they should have sex or how they should behave.

The Sexual Revolution has liberated people from commitments and old social norms, but no guidance on how we should behave and how we should act in the dating world is forthcoming and has become free for all, which has left both men and women feeling devastated and like they are just a piece of meat.

The only advice I could give on this matter is that on first dates, you be honest with yourselves about what you are looking for, have realistic expectations and be honest in saying that you’re looking for a long-term relationship and not for just sex.

If that person says they’re not interested in anything long-term, then see that as a positive, not a negative, outcome because that way, you won’t feel heartbroken.

Instead, you will feel emotionally ready to see a different person because you have neither gained nor lost anything from the encounter.

(Thank you for reading to the end of this article.

For people just scrolling down, I intend to break this article into smaller chunks for people who prefer reading articles in much smaller bite sizes of 500 to 1000. Also, the Silicon and Sexual Revolutions are highly complicated, and I could not fit everything into one article.)

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Why The World Doesn’t Care About Men

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The former comedian now turned author, podcast, and political commentator Konstantin Kisin stated that the reason that people don’t care about the welfare of men is because historically if there is a tribe of 10 women and ten men and women are killed off, the tribe goes extinct even if one survives.

In contrast, if nine of the men are killed, and there are ten surviving women, the tribe can repopulate its numbers; this is purely an analogy to demonstrate that historically, women are far more valuable than men.

Also, Kisin for the argument of generational trauma most recently during World War I in 1914 to 1919, then World War II from 1939 to 1945 were predominantly men suffered from a post-traumatic stress disorder and didn’t live in a culture that allowed men to discuss their emotions.

He also puts for the argument that Europe, in particular from the fall of the Western Roman Empire in 467 A.D. until the ending of World War II, went to war after war with men repeatedly suffering generational trauma.

Furthermore, he stated that women growing up with their fathers and grandfathers being stoic does not bring forward any emotional complexity. With this being generational, women are not used to dealing with men’s feelings, which is not something they know how to process.

Additionally, men don’t know how to communicate their problems, and women don’t know how to respond to a man who communicates suffering due to the historical norm of the stoic man.

Why The World Doesn’t Care About Men

Suicidal Middle-aged Men

According to the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland Office of National Statistics, the most significant group that is vulnerable to suicide is men aged between their 40s and 50s.

Also, In 2016, the last year global data was available from the World Health Organization (WHO), there were an estimated 793,000 suicide deaths worldwide. Most were men.

One of the critical drives behind male suicide is the lack of purpose men have in the modern world. Women have adapted to these new challenges far more effectively than men. Men have not adapted to the changing sexual marketplace and the more educational-orientated workforce.

College enrolment for men in the United States between 2017 and 2022 experienced a decline of 20%, with a nearly 6% fall concerning women attending universities in the past four years, according to the National Student Clearinghouse Research Centre.

Among all student demographics in this sector, white men experienced the sharpest decline in enrolment, falling nearly 20%. Moreover, fall enrolment rates for women at for-profit institutions have increased in the same period while male enrolment has declined.

This growing gender graph in educational attainment marks a significant improvement in women’s education, with the modern woman being more highly educated and prepared to face the modern world and today’s contemporary man.

This is a fantastic view turn compared to the state of women’s liberation in the 1960s; however, this leaves them behind, making them purposeless and rudderless to face the challenges of this century.

The reason for this phenomenon is that the educational system is far more built towards the average female temperament of submissiveness and cooperation.

Men tend to be far more aggressive, commit more violent crimes and act disorderly in their teens and early 20s; this is why Fewer than 4% of the total prison population are held in women’s prisons. However, there are distinct differences between the needs of women in custody and men.

Firstly, as stated, there are fewer of them. Secondly, women tend to receive shorter prison sentences than men and often for less serious crimes.

Why The World Doesn’t Care About Men

Men Without Purpose

For men living in the Western world, particularly highly industrialised and post-industrial Western economies, they are becoming purposeless and rudderless, being told repeatedly that women don’t need them.

You are becoming obsolete due to insemination technology, and the state is also taking on the job traditionally taken on by fathers of being the caretaker and financial provider, with more and more young men and women living in fatherless homes.

Roughly 24 million, or one-third of all American children under age 18, live with an unmarried parent, according to a 2018 Pew Research Centre analysis of US Census Bureau data. And 81% of those single-parent homes are headed by a mom.

This has been a growing trend since the late 1960s.

For numerous reasons, women are choosing not to get married and stay with their man and have chosen the state, either in America or the United Kingdom, which seems to be a far more attractive option for women with children rather than staying with the man who is the biological father.

The reasons for this are numerous, but with this trend happening during the sexual revolution from the mid-1950s until the 1970s, it strongly correlated with the use of the contraceptive pill interfering with traditional relationship dynamics.

Why The World Doesn’t Care About Men

The Heart of the Issue

Due to men being told they are useless and that there is no place for them in this world, and with society and culture being far more designed for a female paradigm, men are lost and don’t feel cared about because the world is being designed for women more than men.

Furthermore, with the lack of older male role models, young men and young women don’t have a person to model their behaviour; they spend all their time with other children, but this was not the historical norm in previous centuries.

Children were typically raised in family-orientated and pan-generational relatives, which meant that the children would learn how to be men and how to be women by being around people older than them, including older siblings.

Instead, childcare has become infantilised, and children and teenagers don’t learn how to be men and women by being around other children.

All they have learned is how to stay children and why Generation Z, born between 1997 and 2010, spends longer and longer at home due to never learning how to be an adult from other adults, though economic factors do play a part as well.

As for men committing suicide in their 40s and 50s marriage, the most common duration of marriage for opposite-sex couples getting divorced in 2021 was eight years, with 6,229 divorces.

For same-sex divorces in 2021, the median duration of marriage was 5.9 years for male same-sex couples and 5.1 years for female same-sex couples.

What this tells us is that when men get divorced in their 40s or 50s, they often have to reinvent themselves again into a new career or start a new relationship from the beginning, and for many men, being back to where they started in their 20s is not something they want to do.

Therefore, they have two options: either commit suicide or start from scratch.

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Why do Women Like BDSM

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For people reading this article and not familiar with BDSM, it stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism, and the purpose of this article is to inform both men and women of white women are particularly interested in dominance play, which includes BDSM.

Women are particularly interested in genres of books related to BDSM, particularly the 50 Shades of Grey novels, which have sold over 150 million copies worldwide. Women are also more likely to read than men; on average, women read 15 books yearly, while men only read nine.

The reason for the female fascination with the 50 Shades of Grey genre and erotic fiction in the form of books over pornography is because the woman’s sex drive is more driven by emotions and building a connection that cannot be built in a porn studio environment.

With books, a romantic setting can be created in which romantic connection and emotion are built throughout a romantic novel; that’s why it’s usually in the middle or toward the end of the book when any sexual activity happens.

Most romantic books have a buildup of tension that is emotional and sexual, and the threat of an overarching enemy that threatens to tear the heroine and the hero from one another goes to crack the passion and excitement that women crave in their romantic fiction.

Four men reading this, a woman derives sexual passion and traction not through visuals but through emotion and mental attraction.

To add credence to this argument, in the literature search and screening process, 60 articles were included. BDSM-related fantasies were found to be common (40–70%) in both males and females, while about 20% reported engaging in BDSM.

Why do Women Like BDSM

Louise Perry

The feminist author and writer Louise Perry argues that the reasons women are strongly attracted to men who are larger than them and have an interest in BDSM are due to historical evolutionary factors that influenced female behaviour for over a millennium.

Louise Perry stated that humans are descendants of apes and that when they engage in sexual activity, it is quite violent. Rape is a common factor in humanity’s historical ancestry.

Mrs Perry follows the argument that BDSM is a holdover of humans and the evolutionary past in regards to sexual activity between both sexes.

Women prefer taller men because human beings are sexily dimorphic species, meaning there are two genders, male and female. On average, males’ upper bodies have 75% more muscle mass and 90% more strength than females.

Also, the ratio of male-to-female average heights across the world. Globally, the ratio is 1.07, meaning that, on average, men are about 7% taller than women. Across the world, this relative difference between the sexes can vary from only 2–3% to over 12%.

What this means for women is that historically immense physical strength and size protected them from other natural predators as well as other males who could potentially kill their babies or commit an act of rape.

Therefore, the male’s size and larger proportion are attractive to women due to the perceived safety that comes from that kind of strength naturally in today’s modern Western world. In a post-industrial economy, physical size and strength do not play a massive part in our daily lives.

This applies to people, particularly those working office jobs or who are part of the laptop class, such as journalists; however, a woman, due to these historically ingrained reasons, still likes to be held by a man larger than them so they can feel safe and protected.

For a woman to be happy in a relationship, he needs to feel safe and protected; this applies to women a thousand years ago, and the same rules apply to today’s contemporary woman.

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Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

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This article focused on relationships, compatibility, and incompatibility, and this information can be related to dating advice on maintaining a relationship, be it spiritual or sexual. This information can even be used in long-term relationships as well.

Still, the primary focus is on relationships within the first two years, particularly during the dating stage.

To understand a relationship and its compatibility, it is first necessary to understand the goals and purposes of each individual or organisation regarding the filament of their needs, be that the need to be felt, the need to be here or the need to be understood.

Furthermore, understanding each other’s responsibilities and duties within any relationship is critical to establishing compatibility and finding out quickly whether the relationship won’t work due to different priorities, philosophies and cultures.

Actress Sophie Turner: Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

Romantic Relationships

No matter how much you love someone and how much they ignite your passion, you cannot get over any incompatibility because those differences get to the heart of who you both are if one person is a Hindu and the other person is a Muslim when it comes to having children that will be a road that cannot be easily crossed.

These incompatibilities should have been resolved during the first few months or discussed during the first date.

Once you start to sleep with someone and develop deep emotional connections, it becomes harder to dissolve the relationship.

As human beings, we sometimes make the mistake of trying to make a relationship work where there are incompatibilities because we love that person.

Love is not enough to keep a relationship, particularly a romantic one, functioning and building lives together.

Due to loving that person, we keep trying to resolve the issues; all we are doing is taking ourselves into a deeper and deeper hole; the only solution is to realise what we are doing and climb out of that situation.

Again, this is easier said than done; that’s why it’s important when going on a date that both parties are honest concerning what they want for themselves and any relationship, as well as any incompatibilities.

For instance, the couple Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner are getting divorced; this is a celebrity marriage and divorce partly caused by Joe Jonas being an extrovert and Sophie Turner being an introvert and more the homebody.

If you are a person who enjoys spending time indoors and doesn’t particularly like going clubbing and being around lots of people, then somebody opposite to your personality may very well be incompatible for a long-term relationship.

Even in the short term, they make you feel loved and appreciated because they have something you wished you had, which could be more extraversion and confidence.

That’s why when it comes to dating and relationships, it is best to be honest with who you are and not who you think you are, but every person reading this, including me, has the right to make their own mistakes.

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

Sexual Incompatibility

Men and women are different; we view sex differently, which means different things to different sexes. For men, sex can be an enjoyable activity, and for men, sex does not necessarily mean the establishment of a deeper human connection.

However, it is a contradiction to this that the only way or the main way men get emotional connection is through sexual activity. This is why when men seek marriage counsellors, the common complaint is the lack of sex.

For women to have sex, they must feel safe, feel her, and that the deep connection and bonding happens before sex; that’s the only way she can enjoy sexual activity if there is already a bond with a man; on average, he is not bothered.

When it comes to deciding when to have sex for a woman, it may be advantageous to wait a minimum of three months to get to know this person and to see how compatible or incompatible you both are.

One factor also consider is your society’s sexual norms and whether or not it’s normal for your society’s women folk to have sex on the first stage for the fourth date and that the man, when it comes to sexual activity, will operate in the social norms enforced by women.

For a man dating a woman, she needs to feel safe, feel respected and have a romantic atmosphere. I will not say love because you may have known this person for less than one week or a maximum of six months.

It takes two years if not longer, to genuinely get to know somebody, and six months is not a lot of time, but there’s no point in deluding each other that it is to love that this does not stop a man treating a woman like a lady and being romantic.

If you are dating with intention, this woman could be the love of your life, the mother of your children or the last woman you ever sleep with; if that’s the case, it’s best to start on the right foot and build a connection.

Women do not deserve to be pumped and dumped by men. This is where a man sleeps with a woman but is never courted again; this significant trauma and any man wishing to pursue a successful relationship and sleep with the same woman is best to make her feel safe and satisfied.

That’s why when you first get to know one another, you establish where you are going, and when you like to have sex, there’s no pressure, and you can genuinely get to know one another.

For a woman, if you are not interested in the man in any sexual way, then leave the relationship so you are not wasting each other time.

If you’re not interested in a woman for a relationship and only for sex, leave her alone or establish straightaway that you’re not interested in a relationship, just sexual activity.

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

Men and Women are Different

If you are a man or a woman in the Western world and particularly if you are a member of the laptop classes, these are people who work primarily with laptops or the tech spaces; if that is the case, then the difference between a man or a woman is not immediately apparent.

Working in an office, you don’t need superior male strength, and muscle mass does not affect your job performance. This can make the psychological and emotional differences between men and women invisible.

In regards to growing up in this environment, both men and women are told each other are the same and have the same goals and objectives regarding relationships.

It is shocking for a man that women are not interested in having sex like a man and having sex repeatedly because male testosterone is 16 to 20 times higher than a woman on average.

For a young woman, when she starts dating, it’s pretty shocking and maybe even scary how much the male sex drive and male motivation are devoted to having sex.

The lack of knowledge causes incompatibility and friction between the sexes that doesn’t need to be there.

For women, on average, to achieve orgasm when it comes to self-pleasure, it takes eight minutes, with a male partner’s sexual release taking 14 minutes, but the average male orgasm takes five minutes.

This incompatibility is due to a woman not feeling safe with her partner or not being loved; on average, everything with a woman’s sex drive is a lot more complicated.

This is why, to have a compatible sexual relationship and a relationship in general, both men and women must accept that you are different, that the key to success is communication, and that you both feel uncomfortable and maybe even embarrassed.

Also, when it comes to bonding and building connections, men and women do this differently; for women, it’s through verbal communication; for men, it is through group activities.

If a woman wishes to build a stronger bond with her man, doing something together is a way to build an emotional connection, and for a man, letting his woman talk to him through communication is a way to build a relationship with her.

Furthermore, when a man sees a woman with a problem, he does not need you to fix it; I recommend listening to her and not letting the issue stress you out.

With the male brain, we see a problem, identify it, and immediately want to fix it for a woman; with a woman, their brains are better at communication, so if they have a problem, they will keep talking about the issue.

Men find that incredibly stressful, but for a woman, that is how they relieve stress; this is why before a woman wants to talk about her problems, you might ask, do you want me to be a sounding board? You wish to seek a solution, or she must feel she is being seen and heard.

That’s why communication is critical within a relationship; both people communicate their wants and needs, and both parties try to meet each other’s emotional and physical needs. Still, with that stated, the other person is not obligated always to meet those needs.

This is why having hobbies, group activities and even friends outside of relationships is critical to help keep the relationship functioning.

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

The Talk

Suppose you are a man or a woman who is dating with intention.

In that case, you are both looking for a long-term relationship that could involve having children, getting married, or staying committed to one person throughout your life.

If that is what you are looking for and what you both want, that’s a good sign of compatibility; if you are both compatible, you must talk about what you want for your relationship and how you wish to structure your lives.

Suppose you are working 35 hours or more per week. In that case, it is essential to know when you can have dates together, schedule times to have long and deep conversations and establish your mutual and separate interests within and without the relationship.

Also, it’s essential to establish whether or not you value mental stimulation for yourself. I don’t want conversations always resolved around sex, defecating, TV, food and work. I like intellectually stimulating, but that does not necessarily apply to you.

If you are going to talk about what you both want, you must know what you wish for yourselves in your relationship; that way, you are not sleepwalking into a disaster or making choices based on fear.

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Relationship Intimacy is Not Sex

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A fundamental pillar of human intimacy is not sex; sex can be an enhancement and a deepening of existing intimacy, but in no way, shape or form does sex lead to intimacy. It merely leads to a deepening of human connections.

This is why if a man engages in sex, he will feel pretty good, even if it’s just casual sex.

This is because Western cultural values have conditioned and repeatedly told women they can have sex as a man and at the same persistent pleasure, but this is nonsense.

This is nonsense for two reasons.

The first reason the female sex drive is much lower than men and women are like ovens; it takes time to heat up, and normally, for the average woman to achieve orgasm, sexual activity needs to take place for a minimum of 14 minutes.

Men, in contrast, are like frying pans; they normally reach orgasm within five minutes; this is the sexual discrepancy between men and women.

Human intimacy doesn’t just happen between couples in a sexual relationship; it happens in families, with children, and within any relationship that is truly worth having.

No matter who you are, intimacy is a fundamental part of our lives. To be truly intimate with someone, you must see them, feel them, and understand what intimacy truly is to take them in and give yourselves to that person entirely.

With writing, you can see how sex enhances intimacy; it builds more robust connections. Sex is not intimacy because having an excellent sexual experience, particularly for a woman, must feel like they are seen and heard and that the other person is taking the man.

The problem facing men and women trying to find intimacy is that people trying to screw each other to get the desired effect of intimacy through sex requires communication, honesty and vulnerability; that’s why sometimes sex can seem like an easy way to intimacy.

But the truth is having sex with somebody you don’t know can make both people feel like a piece of meat and neglected by the person they are with.

Relationship Intimacy

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You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

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Are you in a relationship where you always want sex, or your partner is always asking for sex, and your partner is never into having sex, or you believe they want too much sex? What this issue is called is mismatched sexual desire or desire discrepancy.

The definition of sexual desire mismatched is where one partner desires more sexual activity than the other person or persons within the relationship.

When talking about sexual mismatch, it is also necessary to understand there are two types of sexual desire. This is spontaneous desire, often portrayed in movies and TV shows, where sexual desire happens almost instantaneously.

The other kind of sexual desire is called responsive desire, when individuals are not immediately interested in having sex, or one is currently not interested in the other person sexually.

The way responsive desire works is that individuals interact together, which could include hugging and having a meal to spend quality time with one another, leading to a slow build of sexual arousal.

That’s why there are many stereotypes where the husband or boyfriend massages the woman’s feet, leading to sexual intercourse.

You Want Sex, and Your Partner Doesn’t

Sexual Mismatch is Normal

A recent study showed that up to 80% of couples struggle with this issue — a situation where partners’ sexual desires are misaligned.

But this mismatch doesn’t need to mean the end of a relationship, so long as both partners commit to open, honest and empathetic communication.

It’s also important to understand that this sexual mismatch can be due to stress, work and lifestyle. If one of your partners prefers to have sex in the morning rather than in the evening or mid-day, this may not be possible due to the constraints of childcare for work.

The average person works anything from 35 to 40 hours a week, factoring in the stress and other life pressures which can lower the sex drive.

The key for couples inside their relationship is communication and the willingness to have sex with their partner.

As long as there is a desire or maybe more beneficial, the intention to have a sexual relationship is critical to maintaining your sexual happiness and fulfilment.

Another factor that needs to be considered is whether or not you or your partner has a hormonal issue that caused the lowering of your sex drive; for a man, it can be visible due to the ability to have an erection.

In contrast, for a woman, it can be seen as invisible due to the woman’s sexual organs being internal.

Furthermore, if both parties are suffering from a form of depression, it lowers the sex drive and also, being overweight contributes to reducing a person’s libido.

This is why there can be an unhealthy cycle of depression tablets that lowers libido, increases weight gain and decreases the willingness to engage in sexual activities.

Advice from Rena Malik, M.D. link

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Fentanyl Crisis is Terrifying America

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One hundred seven thousand people in America have died due to the fentanyl crisis and drug overdose in 2022, enough people to fill Michigan Stadium, the largest stadium in North America.

Of those people recorded in statistical data, 107,000 of those 70,000 died due to fentanyl.

The Fentanyl crisis is the most significant health threat facing the United States.

It is a crisis growing out of control, linked to multiple factors such as the over-prescription of fentanyl for pain relief and modern technologies such as social media affecting people’s communication abilities and further exacerbation by modern living.

Here is the definition of Fentanyl, also spelt fentanyl, a highly potent synthetic piperidine opioid drug primarily used as an analgesic.

Because fentanyl is 50 to 100 times more potent than morphine, its primary clinical utility is in pain management for cancer patients and those recovering from painful surgical operations.

Fentanyl Crisis

The Tripling of Fentanyl Deaths

According to an article published in REUTERS, data from the US Centre for Disease Control and Prevention shows that fentanyl-related deaths from drug overdoses increased from 5.7 per 100,000 people in 2016 to 21.6 per 100,000 in 2021.

The crisis is getting so severe that during Joe Biden’s State of the Union address to Congress, he stated that Republicans and Democrats united in their support for ending the fentanyl crisis, with President Biden getting a standing ovation.

There is a transcript of Biden’s speech on the fentanyl crisis.

Joe Biden, President of the United States of America: ‘So let’s launch a major search to stop fentanyl production in the sale and trafficking more drug detection machines inspecting cargo at the board’.

My apologies if reading Joe Biden’s words does not make much sense. I state this because I watched the address and found it hard to listen to what he was saying, most likely due to his deteriorating mental health, allegedly from Alzheimer’s.

Fentanyl Crisis

The Origins of Fentanyl and The Growing Crisis

Fentanyl was first created in 1959 by Dr. Paul Janssen; it was initially marketed as an analgesic drug under multiple formats as a patch, lollipop or spray.

The first cases of drug overdose using fentanyl and the beginning of the fentanyl crisis were discovered by the Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) in the early 1990s, starting in Wichita, Kansas and has since been a growing crisis, becoming a cancer within the USA.

In the early 2000s and 2005, the American police force and other law enforcement agencies were cracking down on the internal manufacturing of fentanyl illegally.

Unfortunately, they discovered that the drugs were being imported from outside of the USA from Mexico and China.

The DEA says the powerful Jalisco and Sinaloa cartels smuggle most of the fentanyl that crosses the border. It’s hidden in vehicles, by individuals, or in cross-border tunnels.

In addition to blaming China and Mexico, Republicans blame President Biden for failing to secure the border.

It is impractical for the United States to build a wall across the border with Mexico, which is 954 miles (3,145 km).

The border between the United States and Mexico traverses a variety of terrains, including urban areas and deserts.

The border from the Gulf of Mexico to El Paso, Texas, follows along the Rio Grande, forming a natural barrier.

This means there needs to be a political settlement with Mexico that destroys the cartels. If the situation has deteriorated too much with Mexico, the United States may need to consider military action or the incorporation of Mexico into the union.

Fentanyl Crisis

Fentanyl Crisis: Who is it Affecting and Why

Overdose victims have risen for over 20 years, with fentanyl being the key reason. Currently, almost 70% of all fatalities in the United States are due to the use of fentanyl, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse.

Another shattering fact is that fentanyl is behind 80% of deaths of 15 to 24-year-olds in the USA; this drug damages America’s youth.

Currently, as of writing this article, fentanyl has killed five times as many Americans who died fighting in the Vietnam War, and with the fatality rate for using fentanyl being over 70%, it is a critical factor of why so many Americans are dying even though the drug makes up only 13% of illegal drug use.

The reason why fentanyl is becoming more widespread is because of how potent the drug is.

1 kg of fentanyl can create 1 million counterfeit pills that can then be passed off as another hallucinogenic substance.

It is even distributed as oxycodone, a pain killer for which people do not need a prescription, which increases the chance of becoming addicted to fentanyl.

According to the New England Journal of Medicine, the increase in fentanyl use reflects the potency of this substance and its low production cost, which gives traffickers strong incentives to mix fentanyl with herring and other drugs and narcotics available on American streets.

The production process of fentanyl also requires specialised equipment and expertise.

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Hidden Disabilities and Mental Health: Awareness at Work

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A training course on identifying and approaching people or avoiding people in severe mental distress, committing acts of violence or other situations threatening any staff member working as a handyperson conducting general repairs.

Furthermore, it is essential to highlight that members of the organisation employees are also entitled to protection from acts of violence, according to the Government Health and Safety Executive.

Any employer must balance the needs of their employees, the safety of people in distress, and against any other physical and financial costs to our staff members and others.

To mitigate any harm to any handyperson or people with a wide range of disabilities due to old age, old age illnesses or people with hidden disabilities such as ADHD, autistic spectrum or other disabilities that are not visible.

Hidden Disabilities Autism

Hidden Disabilities

Hidden disabilities are very unclear to a layperson.

Staff members will need to have some basic information on how to conduct their behaviours around vulnerable people and how to react appropriately around violent situations to de-escalate any situation, as well as to understand the appropriate contact points for any staff member by contacting a trained professional so the situation can be resolved by a trained health professional or members of law enforcement.

Suppose staff members work in old folk homes, particularly around older people. In that case, contacting their primary carers will be beneficial in case of any emotional distress rather than immediately phoning the police.

People who are vulnerable and at risk of self-harm are better off seeing a trained medical or mental health professional, and contact numbers should be made available to companies and said employees working at the site.

A systematic approach could also be created where an understanding of the hidden disabilities and illnesses of the place a handyperson will be conducting their work.

This kind of training can be done simply as a PowerPoint presentation.

Hence, they know what type of behaviour to exhibit and how they should approach people who have disabilities and are neurodivergent.

A basic example is a person on the autistic spectrum.

A typical response from a person with this neurodivergent is that they don’t like eye contact or physical touch and may find it incredibly distressing to hold down a conversation.

Furthermore, people with this disability can sometimes be emotionally and socially immature to their perceived physical age, and this can cause significant conflict or a distressing situation that can be resolved with some basic information about autism to avoid misunderstandings and conflict resolutions.

The final point needs to be made that staff members are not vigilantes or professional social workers; they must seek out professional assistance and avoid any danger to themselves in any distressful situation.

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Women Can Have Sex on Their Period

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A woman’s period cycle, or, more accurately, Menstruation, is the regular discharge of blood and mucosal tissue from the inner lining of the uterus through the vagina. The menstrual cycle is characterised by the rise and fall of hormones.

Falling progesterone levels trigger menstruation, indicating that pregnancy has not occurred.

The average menstrual cycle for a biological female lasts 28 days.

It starts with the first day of the last period and ends with the first day of the next menstrual period.

However, the length of women’s cycles varies, particularly for the first year or two after a young woman has her first period.

Women Can Have Sex on Their Period

Period Sex

So, the question is, can women have sex on their period? The answer to this question is objectively yes.

Women can have sex when having their period; there is no danger or severe risk of being harmed and having penetrative sex, though there may be slightly more sensitivity on the internal tissue.

However, if a woman and her male or female partner practise safe sex, everything will be okay.

It’s essential to add that even when having sex on your period, pregnancy is still risky.

Male sperm survives up to several days, with five days on average from within a woman, which could still cause pregnancy.

It’s also vital that couples wishing to avoid pregnancy weight within 28 days for contraceptive pills would be effective due to taking over 28 days for the contraceptive pill can become effective.

Another vital fact to be aware of is that the contraceptive pill only works 99% of the time, and there is still a risk of 1% of pregnancy in that 1% is also over the general population that is sexually active and on the contraceptive pill and will become pregnant.

Furthermore, if a woman gains more mass, this can be muscle mass and fat, or if a woman is above the average height and weight, the contraceptive pill may not be effective.

I recommend you speak to your GP or doctor about contraception and its effects.

Women Can Have Sex on Their Period

Benefits of Period Sex

Period sex is safe and can have benefits like reducing menstrual cramps and headaches and might even shorten your flow.

It is also essential that any sex be informed and conceptual because a woman on her period can have sex, but that doesn’t mean she has to have sex.

If engaging in penetrative sex, it may be beneficial to have sex in the shower, in the missionary position, because the menstrual cycle blood and the missionary position can be more comfortable for the female partner.

Using a towel may also be beneficial to protect the bedsheet from blood. Ultimately, it is up to women whether or not the benefit of sex outweighs other inconveniences and ways out the pros and cons.