The orgasm gap was coined to describe the disparity in orgasms between couples. Also known as orgasm inequality, studies have used it to measure sexual satisfaction among different demographics. A good and healthy sex life can’t be measured purely by how many orgasms people have.
The International Academy of Sex Research conducted a more rigorous study in 2017 and found that 95% of heterosexual men said they usually or always orgasmed when sexually intimate, followed by 89% of gay men, 88% of bisexual men, 86% of lesbian women, 66% of bisexual women and 65% of straight women.
If orgasm parity between genders and sexualities was your goal, you might say women should have sex with women and straight men should stop lying; then, everyone would end up climaxing about 90% of the time.
That kind of response is nonsense.
A big reason for the orgasm gap between men and women is communication failures and the ability to meet each other’s needs.
It is currently unpopular to say men and women are different, but the truth is that we are not just physically but emotionally indifferent to needs and requirements.
Another massive factor is attitudes to sexuality and sexual health nations with the Abraham religions and traditions of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam don’t talk about sex healthily and constructively.
There are shame and cultural Reasons – Sexual guilt develops due to sex-related beliefs or attitudes that are restricting.
For example, parents inadvertently imparted these ideals or were absorbed by seeing other people as they grew older. As a result, there is an innate feeling of sexual inhibition or guilt.
New Relationships
Evolutionary psychology tells us that humans desire new experiences and that craving a new dopamine hit.
It has been discovered that the honeymoon period of a relationship is when a couple has sex for the first time and lasts from six months to two years.
During this period, the human brain reacts as the couple has been on cocaine or other drugs that elicit a hallucinogenic or high experience.
What this means for relationships is that after the honeymoon period, sex starts to decline within the relationship, along with the quality of sex and the willingness of couples to start truly building their relationship.
It can be argued with confidence during the honeymoon period, neither man nor woman nor same-sex attracted people are in a position truly make life choices when under the mental condition called love.
This is not to say love is not essential sexual interest is important, but that the building blocks of any relationship are built upon communication and meeting each other’s bids for connection is not just sex quality but quality time.
One key to the success of overcoming the challenges of the honeymoon period is to learn your partner’s five primary love languages, discovered by Gary Chapman, the author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts.
These five love languages are Act of Service, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts.
Sources
Icliniq Sexual Guilt – Causes, Symptoms, and Cure link
The Guardian The orgasm gap – and how to close it: ‘Don’t equate sex and penetration’ link
NBC News The ‘orgasm gap’: Why it exists and what women can do about it link
Forbes What Is The Orgasm Gap? link
Brides, What Is the Honeymoon Phase and How Long Does It Last? link
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts link
Forbes The 5 Love Languages—And How To Use Them To Strengthen Your Relationship link
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